Here are some I taught my sons. They are not insults, which would only bring your child down to the social bully's level of lowness.
1.) Grow-up! (this helps your child realize that calling names or lowering the other person is not the path to becomming an adult. Incidentally, the social bully said "what do you know about being grown up?" to which my son said "not acting like you!" BAM!)
2.) Whatever! (this helps your child to eliminate hot buttons. If the 'mean monkey' knows it can't bother them, then it will find someone else to bother)
3.) Thank you! (totally disregards the social bully by not entertaining the comment in the least bit of recognition. This can also be followed by, "if I want to hear your opinion, I'll fart.")
LOL>....anyway...hope these little phrases help.
I'm sorry that you are going through this. Dont listen to the some of the people who are giving bad advice!
It's really hard to ignore someone when you are in school together and you can't escape sometimes you need to come right back at them with a smart answer. it doesnt mean that you have to say something insulting, just something funny.
Just keep saying, "I can't hear you. What? I cant hear you!" Sooner or later they'll get sick and tired of it.
Good luck to you and your son! You are a good parent that cares about what is happening to your child. I wish my parents were more like you!
well for one thing anyone can blurt out a "one liner or a combact" it may not even have anything to do with what your sons bully is saying... you have to be more specific.. what does the bully say to your son...? what would be a good combact if someone said this to you (whatever the bully said)? then you would get an answer.. even i cant answer this... what did the bully say?... if u dont even know what the one-liners insultsreal story is then just stay out of it or talk to the principle or teacher in the school.. simple as that.
I agree with Mrs K and Catseyes....
your are an adult...whats wrong with you? You need to be teaching your child not to let things bother him... not to get even....
you need to go to parenting classes!
I'd have to agree with Mrs. K.
Be an adult (which I'm assuming you are)...and teach him the fine art of walking away and reporting him.
Very simple.
Although I do agree with Mrs. K I amin middle school and I hear this happen all the time. I will admit that I have been included in this a few times. I know how people do this and I have also become guilty of getting in fights. I don't know how old your son is so I'm not sure what to tell you. But her it goes...
first off When someone starts name calling it ussually makes them stop if you repeat what they say and laugh at them. for instance these 2 girls got in me and my friends face one time and said they were gonna beat us up and my friend said: are you serious? you honestly think you can do that? well good luck! then we laughed at them and they haven't said a word to us since. Well, there's always time when you can ask that person if there insecure and if they need help your not willing to offer it but with all those problems they may want to see a theripist. People really back down when you do that. And I would like it if you ask your son to try to politely and very nicely work it out before you resort to any of this.
or you can use these,
1. Oh! how sweet.
2.So how's that therapy going?
3. Did you get that insult out of a book? Cause I know I've heard that some where before.
4. Is that the best you cando?
5. Pathetic.
6. Thank you I take that as a compliment.
7. what's wrong with your face? Oh1 I'm sorry thats normal for you isn't itone-liners insults.
good luck
4get wat all these other ppl are sayin bout u supposed 2 be tha adult in tha situation and all that. Tell him 2 let the otha kid come up to him and get smart and call him names but tell ur kid not 2 say anything. Then when the boi gets all in his face, tell ur son to ball up his fist and hit tha boi as hard as he can in tha nose or in between tha eyes or "down there" lol. But no, teach him early not 2 be disrespected and let other ppl run all over him
i agree with Mrs. K 1000%...what type of parent are you to give advice like that to your child. you are supposed to proctect them.. be a parent, not a friend...
How about not at all? I cannot believe that you as a parent are encouraging name-calling and verbal abuse. Have your son tell the harasser to stop or report him. Egging someone on just causes more trouble and is absolutely pointless.
EDIT:
If you're willing to encourage and promote abuse when you as an adult are supposed to be a parent, then you deserve a lecture. I understand you think you're helping your son by delivering one-lines but in reality, you're only making it worse. These types of the things can only inflame the abuser more and create an even bigger mess.
I know how it feels to be a parent of a child who is being harrassed. Here are some suggestions:
"whatever!"
"Here we go again."
"I can't hear you!"
I wish I had more. There are some really mean people on Yahoo answers. You DO NOT need parenting classes. You obviously want to help your child. The people giving advice here need to think about what they're saying before they post it.
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